As everyone here knows, I lost my parents and felt in depression since then.My way was difficult and many times misunderstood. Many people around me couldn't understand why that hapenned. For some I was a "weak mind, death is part of life", "I should let them go", and things like that. It was very very painful for me to deal with all the situation.
Sometimes I had desires of revenge thinking that they had to do worse than I did, so that they could understand what is to be in major depression.
Maybe listening the following Ted Talk can show a little of what I went through. Trying to go on with my memories in me. It still is very painful. From times to times my memories update again and again.
Nora McInarny describes her memory about the warmth of the body of her husband already death. I remember so well the warmth of the body of my father already declared dead. I hugged him very fondly. He was still warm. Nothing will erase this from my memory, just like the last kiss I gave him, before descending to the grave.
Nora says we move forward with our grief, we don't move on. The mourning stays as do the memories.
The Disney Lion King dies and Kimba (his beloved child) stays in depression till he can understand that to honour his father he needs to believe he is inside him "Remember me, remember me ...".
We can not expect that our cure has to go through forgetting, as many people think.
They still are with us, just inside us. And we must honour them. Think how happy they would be with our happiness, with our success. How sad they would be kowning about my major depression.
Well, it is difficult but possible.
Listen Nora here
https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
